"Well, that's me."

I think that's the stupidest thing that can ever come of out someone's mouth. It's the dialogue that's the rock bottom of every fight, and it's where you hit a dead end every time you're trying to solve a problem. It's also easiest method to get away with doing the most meaningless things. A person isn't born with their strengths and flaws. If they could be changed once, they always can be changed. The only thing that's stopping them is their lack of will to do it. There's no set of functions that define you permanently and forever. It doesn't hurt to accept, if not aloud, at least silently, that you ARE flawed. And don't back yourself up with "I can't help it. That's who I am." You should have a sensible reason for being a particular way, and if you don't, clearly, it'll be universal benefit to change! Who you are is supposed to be getting better, every single day. And maybe it's impossible to hit 'perfect' in the short life span we're assigned to, but at least we would have given it our best. :)